The FOUR HORSEMEN Of Self-Limitation
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As is my custom, I was sitting with my morning beverage today going through my morning pre-game ritual, as outlined in the post Exercise – Envision – Read – Meditate – Pray – Empower .
(Yes, I do consider every day to be a present in the game of life)
I was thinking about what messages I have received that would benefit you, the reader of this Blog Post.
As is my daily routine I was feeling the power of the Self-Confidence Formula as is documented in Napoleon Hill’s “Think And Grow Rich” in the Chapter on ‘Faith’. Specifically, I found my mind resting on the paragraph that I have internalized as:
“I have clearly written down a description of my DEFINITE CHEIF AIM IN LIFE, and I will never stop taking action as I develop the self-confidence for its attainment.”
Co-incidence, I don’t think so 🙂
As one of the reasons behind the lack of self-confidence are the self-limiting behaviors we adopt I decided to look these ‘straight-in-the-eye’ and look for steps we can take to overcome them.
Note that I chose self-limiting over self-defeating, because you are never defeated unless you quit on yourself. However these behaviors do limit the size and the speed of our progress. So let’s think about self-limiting behaviors, what kinds or categories there are and how we might overcome them.
All self-limiting behaviors have a single source – our attitude.
Our attitude towards ourselves.
Our attitude towards what we are doing.
So it makes sense to concentrate on making new habits – to squeeze out old ones.
Every cell of our body, I have been given to understand, dies off and is replaced by a new one within 21 days.
So it does not take long to do new things on a repeated basis for us to create a new habit – to replace self-limiting old ones.
Let’s start by considering 4 types – 4 categories – of self-limiting behaviors.
* NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
Any of these can destroy motivation and leave a scar of perpetual frustration and repeated discouragement.
Our goal should not be to get rid of these altogether, we are human beings.
These are there but we have to recognize them.
These only become a problem when they undermine our success.
Is this the doubt of our ability to get done what we want to get done? Why would that be? Lack of confidence in our ability? Lack of self-esteem, perhaps? Is it rational? Is it irrational? Self doubt can stem from a fear of the future? or a fear of the unknown?
We all start from the same place. So instead of the doubt why not just – Stop – analyze – realize confidence increases with understanding – as we develop understanding, do – build experience.. Address doubts by obtaining experience. We are all on a path of a journey towards OUR OWN definite purpose.
Procrastination is a type of avoidance behavior – as a mechanism for ‘coping’ with anxiety. Why? Because doubt or pain are involved. We think what we intend to do won’t accomplish the desired outcome. BEWARE: what you let inside your head. The conscious mind is not the best watchdog.
Another reason people procrastinate in today’s get it now, fast-paced, minute-rice society – is because of overloading . There are too many stimuli. Here prioritization helps. Improve results by prioritizing important things that will have outcomes!
How can perfectionism be self-defeating? Because it constricts people, it doesn’t allow them to grow. We will never be completely satisfied, which in itself is self-limiting.Perfectionism reduces innovation. We don’t have to get it perfect. We do have to get it going. Perfectionism creates a focus on self, where success depends on working with and for other people.
Perfectionism is a focus on failure, where success hinges less on getting things right – it’s more about how we handle things when we get them wrong.
In short, perfectionism keeps people from doing things. Instead focus on excellence. Let’s instead challenge ourselves to creativity, to innovation.
RE: NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.
This always starts with absolutes. Always. Never. “She’s always wanting things”. “I’ll never get that done”. Instead try to be specific about a specific action.
Negative self-talk is always based in the negative emotions: fear, jealousy, hatred, revenge, greed, anger or superstition. Limit negative emotions and we reduce negative self-talk.
What can we do? Start each day with a positive exercise. A positive quote. A positive message. Do something for a relationship.
Best of all – take a positive action to be a positive influence on someone else during the day. They will give positive talk-backs to increase our positive self-talk.
Make an effort to find a solution instead of finding the blame for a problem.
Focus on the process and the effort rather than the reward. Find a way to build up motivation to where we enjoy what we do. Ask when things go well why they worked out so well. That equips us for it to happen more and more often.
Consider Relaxation Exercises. Although these can be scary because of the many stimuli to which we are exposed they can be very beneficial. De-stress and visualize success.
There we have it.
Be on the look-out for behaviors that are possibly preventing us from being all that we could be, slowing down the journey on the path to our success.
Lessen self-doubt, understand why we procrastinate, strive for excellence before perfection, and change our self-talk.
We are always so much more than we usually give ourselves credit for.
The way I see it “God didn’t create duds”
HAVE FUN WITH THIS VIDEO AS BOB NEWHART COMBATS THE FOUR HORSEMEN IN HIS INIMITABLE STYLE
Again, don’t just take it from me.
You can tell Infinite Intelligence – Napoleon Hill and The Four Horsemen of Self-Limitation sent you! 🙂
For myself, I hope that today’s post allows us to more quickly recognize and overcome our self-limiting behaviors. Those behaviors that limit the size and the speed of our progress.
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Published: April 17, 2014, 19:01 | 4 Comments on The FOUR HORSEMEN Of Self-Limitation
Category: Mind Freedom, Real People Helping Real People